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The following is one of the sections of the fourth chapter of Dr. Parker Rossman’s Sexual Experience Between Men and Boys (originally published in 1976), entitled "Why Do They?", introduced here, and intended to explain why in general some men desire boys, though in practice limited in its evidence to what was then recent in countries with a Judaeo-Christian tradition.


Lure of Erotic Pleasure

When all the reasons given for sex play with boys are examined, one basic motivation emerges: need and desire for erotic pleasure. Sexual needs and desires are normally met by women, even among half of the pederasts interviewed. So when one examines the pederast experience, one uncovers a desire for unusual and exotic experience. One pederast said: “To say that I am foolish for enjoying what I do fails to take account of powerful, non-rational desires. There’s no accounting for a person’s tastes. It is foolish to smoke, knowing what we do about lung cancer, and certainly smoking is as abnormal as deviant sex play. Perhaps it is even more foolish to drink alcohol. Those who passed the prohibition laws were right that society would be better off if people were self-disciplined and were devoted to work rather than imbibing, but I love alcohol, tobacco and boys. I’m no alcoholic. I’m really not addicted to any of the three, but frankly I feel like someone who has discovered fine wines in a society that approves only of drinking fruit juice. Erotically, as in everything else, my world is full of a rich variety of experiences, sexually and otherwise, and I trust my own taste in sex as in other things.” Another said: “For some people the first bite of fudge creates an almost irrepressible desire for a second piece, especially by people who are overweight. My adolescent experience with certain types of sex play was like that, and still is. That is, whenever I encounter a boy who has a reputation for enjoying such play, I find myself like a hungry man on a desert island. Otherwise I scrupulously keep my hands off boys, until I smell that ‘fudge.’ I don’t want to involve a boy in a guilt trip, so I want to avoid even mutual masturbation by rough play, teasing, games. I don’t think there is anything wrong with masturbation, however. Two prep-school boys who soap each other off in the shower and playfully relieve each other’s tensions may have more common sense about sex than all the psychologists; and the same experience with a man can confirm a boy’s masculinity and assuage his homosexual fears. I confess my idea of heaven is an eternity of soaping off boys in a warm shower.”

Another said: “Once a boy feels free to let go and enjoy himself, he is infectious and irresistibly so. Boys are satyrs, insatiable, full of fire – I know, I’ve been burned often enough. A young teenager’s joy in sex play is probably more like what life is meant to be than all the stock markets and assembly lines. Someone criticized me by saying: ‘But you just play at sex, you aren’t taking it seriously.’ Not so. I don’t just play at life, I live to play, to enjoy myself. Most people are cruelly tortured and unhappy in the psychological chastity belts that society imposes on lads; and when a boy comes to a man to ask sex questions, what he really wants to know is how to get out of that belt! He wants someone to tell him it is all right to have some fun and to show him how. Society’s view that I corrupt boys is entirely false. I just open the trap and let them out. They always teach me twice as much about sex as I can teach them. Once free, their imagination soars and they think of erotic games that astonish even me. I haven’t the capacity to resist such fun even when I decide to do so. Society plays sex games with me all the time, in novels, films, advertising, and many of society’s games are more unhealthy than the fun I have with my boy. Someone, who obviously didn’t know what he was talking about, asked if it wasn’t a mistake for me to let him get sexually jaded so young. Jaded? Enjoyable sex doesn’t jade one’s appetite any more than a regular diet of good food. All I really do, in any case, is to whet his appetite. I’m not making him queer, I’m just enhancing his sensitivities so he can enjoy life and women. If you want to envy someone, envy the girl he’s about ready for. What a lover she’s going to have!”

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